Darlene Sorensen sang a special song, Sunday morning. Pastor Bob Sorensen brought the third message in a series on Bible Marriages, “Isaac and Rebekah,” from Genesis 24:1-4.
Isaac was forty when his father, Abraham, sent his eldest servant away to find a suitable bride for Isaac. It was the custom then for a father to make the arrangements concerning the marriage of a son. His instruction to the servant was that he was not to take a wife for Isaac from the women of Canaan. Abraham sent him to Mesopotamia to his kinsmen who still believed in the Lord God. It was advisable to chose a wife from people who not only believed in the same God but had the same culture.
The foundation of a right marriage will be in a right match. A Christian should make a match with someone of a common spiritual background. The Bible says, “Be not unequally yoked.” It is helpful to a marriage if the people agree in matters of church attendance, tithing, and religious practices. It is helpful if the couple share a common social background, have interests in common, and similar intellectual background. Even if the couple seem to be compatible in all these areas, there needs to be a time of courtship, an engagement period in order to really get to know each other.
It would seem that Isaac and Rebekah had similar backgrounds, but they had no time to become well acquainted before their marriage. It looked like a good marriage at the start. Rebekah had been willing and eager to leave her home to marry this man. Isaac loved Rebekah at first sight. But many years later when Isaac had become an old man, we find Rebekah plotting against him. Something had failed in that marriage. A good marriage takes work on both sides. It takes effort to build a healthy relationship that will hold up when put to the test. The problem showed itself in a favoritism that divided the home. Isaac loved Esau, and Rebekah loved Jacob.
How can a couple build their relationship instead of letting it fall apart? Prior to the marriage, they both were on the search for things that would please the other. Keep the search going. Don’t let the marriage become humdrum. Look for things to do together. Watch to avoid the “little things” that annoy like how you squeeze the toothpaste tube, closet doors left open, and disagreement on spending money.
Keep communicating. Pay attention to all the signals, both verbal and nonverbal. Show your love. Say, “I love you.” It is okay to sit close, hold hands, plan a special meal, write a love letter, or send roses. Keep the vision. Keep promises. Show respect. Keep truth. Be dependable. Give support in troublesome times. Talk and listen. Worship God together. Don’t be satisfied with less than what God wants you to have in your marriage.